I’m sure you’re wondering what I’m doing writing in a leadership blog about Selfie Sticks! As I coach leaders, I often find my clients challenged with beliefs around being competent, in-control, and autonomous. To be transparent, one of my fears in life has been around being dependent on others and needing help. As life so often does, I was forced to face that fear during a very challenging family illness. I discovered that people felt honored to be able to give back the help and support that I had offered them. It deepened our connection, our friendship and our love, and I learned a very important lesson, which was that I cannot exist alone, and the journey is a whole lot more fun when surrounded by others.
I find the same pleasant surprises when I ask strangers to take my picture with my BIG camera, and they, in turn, ask me to take theirs. As with children and pets, it serves as a starting point for conversation, for connection, for discovery, that so often leaves me with a smile on my face and warmth in my heart.
So, I don’t mean to slight the Selfie Stick in any way, and, in fact, I’m a bit envious that I didn’t think of the idea myself! And, I am impressed with our culture’s desire for independence, as compared with community and collaboration.
I will resist the pull of the Selfie Stick, and will ask your forgiveness for the close-up pictures of nasal hairs, or the pictures that encompass more depth, because I’ve asked for help.